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8 Motivations to Create the Life You Want

Inspiration for Changing Your Life

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It's easy to get stuck in a routine. We graduate from school, get married, raise a family, and somewhere in there, we get so busy living a life that happened accidentally, we forget that we can create the life we want.

No matter what age you are, you have the power to change your life. We've got eight motivations to create the life you want.

Start today. It's really not that hard.

1. Remember What You Loved as a Kid

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Deb Peterson

Kids know what they're good at. They're in touch with their natural abilities and they don't question it. They act out of genuine likes and dislikes.

Somewhere along the line, we lose touch with that knowing. We forget to honor what we knew as children.

It’s not too late.

I was in my 40s when I found a photo of myself at 6 with a typewriter on my lap, a holiday gift from a family friend. What 6-year-old asks for a typewriter for Christmas? I knew at 6 that I wanted to be a writer.

While I did write for many of my adult years, I wasn't writing what I wanted to write, and I didn't really believe I was a "writer."

Now I believe in the gift I knew as a child was mine.

What is your gift? What did you love as a kid? Get out the photos!

2. Make a List of Your Skills

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John Howard - Getty Images

Make a list of all the skills you’ve learned over your lifetime. Every time we try something new, we acquire new skills. Some of those skills we lose over time if we don't practice them, but others are like riding a bike. Once you know how to do it, the ability comes back quickly, usually with a smile!

Take an inventory of what you know how to do. Allow yourself to be surprised.

When you look at this amazing list of abilities and put them all together, do they allow you to create the life you want?

3. Learn What You Don't Know

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Marili Forastieri - Getty Images

If the gaps in your knowledge and abilities are holding you back from creating the life you want, get out and learn what you need to know. Go back to school if you have to.

If the possibility of school isn't on your radar screen, you can learn almost anything on the Internet. Look for:

Jump right in and figure it out by trial and error. You can't screw up. Even reaching a dead end teaches you something. Keep trying. You'll get there.

4. Set SMAART Goals

Marvelous! Magazine by Deb Peterson
Deb Peterson

Did you know that people who write down their goals are more likely to make them happen? It's true. The simple act of writing down what you want brings you closer to your goal.

Make your goals SMAART:

  • Specific
  • Measurable
  • Attainable
  • Action-oriented
  • Results-oriented
  • Time-phased

Example: By February 1, the first issue of Marvelous! Magazine will be designed, printed, promoted, and distributed.

This was a personal goal of mine when I decided to launch my own women's magazine. I didn't know everything I needed to know, so I set out to fill the gaps, and I started with a SMAART goal. Marvelous! launched on February 1, 2011. SMAART goals work.

5. Keep a Journal

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Silverstock - Getty Images

If you don’t know what you want to create, write what Julia Cameron of “The Artist’s Way” calls morning pages.

Write three full pages, long hand, first thing every morning. Write stream of consciousness and don’t stop, even if you have to write, “I don’t know what to write” over and over again. Your subconscious will slowly rise to reveal what you’ve stuffed deep inside.

This can be a rather startling exercise. Maybe not the first few days, but if you stick with it, you may be amazed by what comes out of you.

Keep a journal. Don't show it to anyone. These are your thoughts and nobody else's business. You don't even have to act on them. The simple act of understanding what you want will help you create the life you want.

The Artist's Way:

6. Believe in Yourself

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Rebecca Emery - Getty Images

Believe in yourself. You are what you think.

Earl Nightingale said, “You become what you think about.” Our minds are powerful things. Train yourself to think only about what you want, not about what you don’t want.

There is power in positive thinking. Wayne Dyer says, “Everything you are against, weakens you. Everything you are for, empowers you.” Be for peace, rather than against war.

Always remember, you are what you think.

7. Have the Courage to Keep Going

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Digital Vision - Getty Images

We all have doubts and fears. We all go through less-than-stellar phases in our lives. Keep going in the direction of your dream, even if you have to take baby steps. Just keep going. Success is often right around the corner.

One of my favorite Japanese proverbs is, "Fall down seven times. Stand up eight." We learned to walk by falling down. Every time we fell, we got back up again, and one day, we stood up and kept going.

Sometimes the youngest among us can be the most inspiring.

8. Remember that Nothing is Forever

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Peter Adams - Getty Images

Everything on this Earth is temporary.

You don’t have to stay in a job that is slowly killing you. Everything in your life is subject to change, and you can be the one who changes it if you want to. You can create the life you want.

Be a lifelong learner. Be curious about what's around the corner. You'll likely live longer and be more fulfilled.

The path can be elusive, but if you set a goal, focus on it positively, believe it can happen, and just keep going, one day you will have created the life you want.

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